“These are the times that try men’s souls.” These are the times when many suffer in the deepest of poverty. Some of those with the MOST in the way of material abundance, are Actually, the most impoverished… of spirit. Emotionally bankrupt. Nothing to give another in that which is the most valuable to humanity. Often, those who think they know these silent sufferers know nothing about their great poverty… except for those in their very closest circles.
I have shared much about becoming whole, healed, Holy, about ascending one’s spiritual mountain and achieving Mastery Over One’s Emotions. THIS is the state of TRUE wealth, where one has something MEANINGFUL to offer another. I have correlated this to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, with the pinnacle of the pyramid of an individual’s mortal needs being “Self-Actualization,” the state of being primarily “in the flow” of life, where one lives and interacts with a deep sense of purpose, being significantly aware of who they ACTUALLY are. These are in peace emotionally, not just cognitively, having a WEALTH of excellent spirit to freely bestow upon others. I have claimed that this is the emotional mastery that ones such as “Jesus” achieved and sought to teach others.
I have spoken from personal experience. Because of my compelling need to understand human nature, who *I* am and why *I* exist, how to best assist humanity, and particularly those most near me in my circle of influence, I have been “blessed” in my life to have several “key” individuals very close to me who have provided character analysis. I have often and deeply wondered, “How can I utilize my profound love for others to truly benefit them long-term? Having reached the pinnacle, how can I now pave the way and assist others, even whet their interest and imbue them with confidence for their own journey?”
Because of these significant people in my life who struggle with their own emotional maturity, I have pondered and studied long and deep on this issue. Rejoicingly, the heavens have not been silent and have poured down much insight. Through the last several years I have additionally heard and felt the weight of many hundreds of individuals through the internet and especially within the Quora community who also struggle with living with or healing from living with those who have suffered with serious identity issues stemming from a severance of their early trust issues. Labels such as “narcissism,” “borderline personality disorder,” “sociopath,” etc. seem childishly bantered back and forth, at times “snarled” as in “You’re a brat! You are EVIL incarnate.”
And I have been asked: Can narcissism be healed?
I must respond: “Of course! Can 2nd grade be overcome?”
You see… Narcissism is a state of learned self-defense of ignorance.
One on the narcissistic scale has learned manipulative behavior in an attempt to mis-direct and hide their vulnerability.
The only remedy for any malady of ignorance is love.
But, since most people do not Truly understand the term “love,” and deal themselves in levels of ignorance, Narcissism is mostly thought an “untreatable disease.”
It is not. Everything is either a call for love or an act of love.
A narcissist has not yet learned to love him self. No, not Really. With an empty tank, he has no supply from which to draw for another. He lives in a perennial “take” mode. He is, truly, “poor in spirit.” When one supplier appears to have dried up or abandoned him, his knee-jerk response is: “Quick! I’ve gotta find another! I need someone to love me!”
Each of us is NATURALLY “narcissistic”… in infancy. Gradually, we learn to feel and deal with our emotions, gaining self-confidence as we do. As we grow in awareness of who we are through developing our ability to hear, obey, and honor our own emotions, we develop a conscience. This conscience, sometimes called “enmity,” is equal to one’s ability to feel and appreciate the emotions of others: empathy. Thus, one can only respect (love) another if he first respects (loves) his own INNER Self. One’s degree of conscience is also directly related to their ability to be conscious of the world of energy, spirit, emotion, the more refined and pure material sphere that we, as a human family, are immersed within. It is when one is COMPLETELY aware and conscious and operating within this conscious state, that one draws upon an Intelligence that is capable of profound enlightenment. It is here that one has Wisdom and is able to assist humanity in a powerful way.
Those without awareness and understanding of their own emotions, lacking a developed conscience, can feasibly deduce with their logical mind what another might be feeling (a cognitive empathy), but without this developed emotional understanding and conscience, these individuals do not feel FOR others and are greatly handicapped individuals when dealing in intimate relationships. Yet, as their physical body develops and matures, leaving their emotional state withered and immature, it is as a dog stuck in a trap. An emotional toddler stuck in an adult body, they must “cover” for their vulnerability, keeping it hidden. As such, they often fixate on “perfectionism” in the physical realm, justifying their emotional indiscretions by projecting blame and “wrongness” onto others.
The following is a link to a short video of a dog trapped within a gate. Frightened and stuck, she has exhausted her ability to extricate herself. Please take the couple minutes to copy and paste it into your browser and watch before continuing.
Could you feel the dog’s desperation? Her panic? The rescue-workers worked deftly and with compassion. Yet, the experience while the release was being effectuated brought her temporarily greater pain. By trusting, by submitting to the helpful hands, the dog was allowed to be inevitably set free. Sometimes a trapped animal lashes out wildly and bites her liberator out of panic and fear, harming others and herself further in the process. This dog, however, through her trusting submission, is safely extricated. Now, healing and repairing may ensue in order to continue on, living a healthy and meaningful life.
Such is the possible case for those “stuck” emotionally. Though it is extremely rare to find anyone “trained” in psychotherapy who believes that a “narcissist” can heal, I am here to prove otherwise. In fact, one before me gave the same message. Hidden within the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5-7 of the Bible) is the actual stairway to healing; not just healing and becoming a “typical” human, but how to continue on to the ultimate state of humanity… self-actualization.
Where the dog in the video chose to submit to those sent to assist him, where temporary pain was involved as they pushed his hind end through the bars, release was accomplished and he was finally set free.
Within the nine-step process of being extricated from one’s emotional trap, submission, temporary pain, and trust when trust is already extremely difficult… each of these variables are requirements to healing. Stopping in the middle of the process leaves one in a scripturally “wilderness” state, trapped between two worlds.
Hidden within the greatest sermon ever given are the Ten Commandments that the one known as “Moses” was originally attempting to give those who looked to him for assistance while in their wilderness state. Unwilling to accept, live by, and master these emotional commands, “Moses” gave them the lower law which applies to the physical realm. Many have long-ago out-grown the “Ten Commandments” that Moses ended up giving his people. I encourage each of you to ponder deeply upon these ORIGINAL Commands, those which the one known as “Jesus” WAS allowed to give, albeit, HIDDEN within this sermon. These Ten Advanced Commands have the ability to program one’s biological computer in ways to effect one’s emotional growth. These are powerful clues, found within Matthew 5-7 which, if zealously and integrously obeyed… without a hitch… for 21 days in a row, without a second’s lapse, will take one up his own personal spiritual mountain.
The pinnacle of one’s spiritual (emotional) mountain yields wealth beyond compare; Deep Emotional Awareness, understanding, wisdom. This summit is only reached with tenacious effort, and “I CAN” Will, but as recompense, opens one’s spiritual treasury. It is HERE, at the TOP, where the Light is the Brightest, where the Living Waters distill “as the dews from heaven.” Having reached the summit, one enters that which has been termed the *Flow.*
The *FLOW* is that state of conscious awareness where one is fixated so intently on the task at hand, realizing that it is nearly impossible to execute, but confident and relying upon a Power greater than one’s own to maneuver through to successful completion. This is the conscious state that those such as “Jesus” pointed to: “I can do all things through *Christ* (the flow) which strengtheneth me.” This is the conscious state that You and I LIVE to enter and BE within. Become Water. *Flow.*
Indeed, if one can maintain a spirit of “rejoicing with exceeding gladness” EVEN WHEN PERSECUTED “for righteousness’ sake,” (Matthew 5:12) that one can eventually become extricated from one’s emotional trap (mortal probation) and graduate with the ultimate… the SPIRITUAL Master’s Degree.
Take today to ponder deeply upon how determined YOU are to be extricated from the bars which hold YOU. Are you ready to sincerely and continuously (NO MATTER WHAT) apply these ten commands to your mental/ emotional programming? As you do, the wild neuronal circuity of emotional instability within your brain which has been the “poor in spirit” program which has been operating your life… will be literally pruned away. You will have allowed yourself to be “Up-graded” to the most heightened software programming possible. AND… that soft-ware will re-configure your hardware. You are the one who will benefit… or not. Do you want that for your self?
The True Ten Commandments:
 Let your light shine by your example that others might see and glorify God through you.
 Never become angry at ANY person in ANY situation.
 Respect another’s opinions and beliefs as if they were your own.
 Stay faithful to relationship commitments, whether these relationships be personal or business, especially promises of fidelity.
 Do not fight back in ANY situation.
 Love your enemies by never thinking of another as your enemy, but as an equal child of God.
 Do not give to be known for giving, but be known for giving.
 Do not fast and pray as others, but know, understand, and act upon the TRUE order of fasting and prayer.
 Seek for peace and happiness instead of money and success.
 Do not judge another in ANY way or set a standard or measure for what another person should be or live up to.
We each require a wise “mother” to exemplify and mentor us in foundationalizing these Ten Basic Commandments until they become knee-jerk instincts, governing our humanity. If you will allow, let me be your “spiritual mother.” I will take the next few posts to continue this one, discussing more completely the enigma of “emotions” and achieving Mastery over our emotions.
Regardless of where *YOU*, dear reader, are on your own emotional journey, I am offering you an opportunity to allow yourself to find release. “Blessed are the poor in spirit who come unto me and learn that which the Father hath given me for them; for their spirits shall be filled and they shall enter into the kingdom of heaven.”
Or better, “If you honestly determine that you yet have little emotional control, have difficulty clearly *hearing* your own True Inner Guidance, and lack Self Love, but sincerely learn and apply the correct programming, you will gain strength, confidence, and develop maturity in dealing with your own and others’ emotions, allowing for the greatest intimacy a mortal can experience. You shall be healed and come to the summit of Self-Actualization.”
… To Be Continued…
In my pursuit of Real Truth, I have given up everything. Crawling through the “eye of the needle,” I have learned the *mysteries* and am now giving my life to assist YOU to dis-cover Who *YOU* really are, along with your unique gift to offer humanity. As you learn to seek (in the right place and with purified intent), you WILL find treasures of lasting value, along with every promised reward. Together, we will establish a society of humane beings and live life ALIVE, on PURPOSE, and with a sociality unequaled… because we will each BE and view each other as equally and profoundly DIVINE! Please… catch this Hope and Vision and join with me.