To feel betrayed by those that you have trusted…
is a uniquely difficult and sobering space to be in emotionally.
Literally, taking the wind out of our sails, we wonder how we can navigate and steer our course, how we can find the fuel to carry on.
To have a relationship that blindsides you in such a twisted way, and to realize that a person, this trusted one, could act so self-serving and without seeming regard to the relationship or our own particular good, makes you truly ponder about going forward ever again trusting another person.
Yet, maybe there’s another way to look at this. One that will turn experience into wisdom.
In every moment of your life…
your PRIME Responsibility…
is to oversee your feelings, your own feelings, and to reign them in if they do NOT measure up to the degree of happiness you desire for your self. Your feelings give you feedback to the correctness of your actions. The correctness of your relationships. The correctness of your environment.
No one else Can be the “Bishop” of your soul.
But You CAN.
Your two priorities in life:
*Always be in control of your emotions… and
*Always be in control of your environment.
IF you feel “sadness” and “betrayal” over these other peoples’ actions…
then, Do something about your feelings to feel better… unless, of course, you want bad feeling to continue. 😉
IF there are people in your life that do not contribute to the feelings that you WANT for yourself, THEN… either change your attitude and expectations of that person or people (your emotions)… OR change your environment.
Re-define your “family” by letting go of or “divorcing” those whose interactions do not align with the degree of mutual respect that You choose to experience in your life.
Think about it.
You need never blame anyone in your life. Those people with whom you feel comfortable, who give you happiness, can be considered your “family,” regardless of biology. Other people give you experience that can lead to some of the most significant understanding and jewels of your life. No need to call them “bad” people, you have just learned for yourself, through your own personal experience with them, that they are NOT people you feel comfortable with. Thus… they must NOT be “family”… at least not YOUR “family,” not now anyways.
As you go through life, perhaps you can consider everyone you interact with as your “teacher.” Just as in schooling, once you have learned the lesson of a particular person, you are free to “graduate” from their class. To remain and take the same material over and over again, without really internalizing it and passing their “final exam,” is pretty lame. In fact, subconsciously, they will likely amp up the volume and the intensity of these “lessons” until you DO begin to take notice and wise up and course-correct.
It is an implanted “virus” in our society’s programming that tells us that because we share DNA, we must share our entire LIFE with another. This belief imprisons us. But, you hold the key to your release from prison!
The greatest liberator is LOVING YOURSELF!
Truly, living the first and Great Commandment: “Love the Lord thy God (in other words, YOU!) with all of your heart, might, mind and strength, will set you free. Release any and everyone else, even and especially those who share your story or your DNA. Let Them be free to live Their lives as they choose and with those whom They feel comfortable. Love Them! And you can only love them properly as you first love yourself properly and completely. Discover who you truly are, not who they wanted and “raised” you to be, but who you truly are. Love yourself. Then, you will attract to yourself a “family” of kindred spirits.
The only way to stop your pain is to change your eyes, or rather, the lens with which you view these others who “cause” you pain. Quit judging them with expectations of “they SHOULD love me and accept me.” Let them go… emotionally and physically. Move on. There’s an entire world of people who are precious. Some, like yourself, also feel alone and estranged from their biological family. Let peace and kindness and mutual respect be your guide as you maneuver through and “find” yourself by “losing” yourself amongst an entire globe of individuals. Each one precious deep within.
Find your “spirit” brothers and sisters, mothers and fathers, children, friends.
Go forth and LOVE!
In my pursuit of Real Truth, I have given up everything. Crawling through the “eye of the needle,” I have learned the *mysteries* and am now giving my life to assist YOU to dis-cover Who *YOU* really are, along with your unique gift to offer humanity. As you learn to seek (in the right place and with purified intent), you WILL find treasures of lasting value, along with every promised reward. Together, we will establish a society of humane beings and live life ALIVE, on PURPOSE, and with a sociality unequaled… because we will each BE and view each other as equally and profoundly DIVINE! Please… catch this Hope and Vision and join with me.