Krystal struggled into my room at one a.m., broken and exhausted. Sobbing, she knelt down beside my bed as I roused and held her. Melting into my arms, she cried, “I can’t do this! I give up!”
Taking “child development” in her middle school, Krystal, 14, had eagerly looked forward to this weekend where she got to care for robot baby “Beckham.” Attending to every need, each nuance, all the coos, stirs, and whimpers before they became anything more, Krystal finished that weekend with a 100% grade. Conscientious as always, Krystal had focused upon that pseudo-child with all the vigilance of any first-time mom. Yet, as mature as she is in many respects, she had not made it through that first night without collapsing for a few moments.
Inwardly, I had smiled. Krystal, my tenth child, was gaining valuable insight. Although raised with an “attitude of gratitude,” there is nothing like an enlarged perspective! Oh, how many nights have I gone without sleep, putting my own needs last. The curriculum of parenting includes middle-of the night feedings, changings, comforting, checking to make sure the little lungs are still breathing, peering in just to admire and enjoy the true “fruits of my labor,” awaking early and wearing a cheery smile while implanting happiness habits in my offspring, feeling another’s broken-heart while my own was being twisted, toiling into/ through/ and beyond my own exhaustion, often calling upon a power much higher than my own…. Yes, these are the costs of parenting. Truly, there is nothing like being a “Mommy” for another human being!
While the rewards far outweigh any investment, still one must have reserves to even begin the project. Whether in their 30’s, 40’s, or even late teens, the capacity to maturely handle responsibility for another, even when exhausted and spent our self, must be fully weighed. What would our culture be like if each young teen had to pass the “Beckham Test” before even considering intimacy? What would parenting look like if each would-be parent had to become licensed by passing an extenuating real-life hands-on exam before even contemplating parenthood? We require it for those who drive on our streets. What about at least that much certification before allowing one to enter into the highway of parenting?
“You can tell the mother by the child” my mentor taught me. By intently watching the choices made and the way the brain works, one can determine the programmer of the young brain: “Mommy.” And, a computer programmer can only install software she has at her own disposal.
In order for the world to be a better place, we must have emotionally mature individuals.
Emotionally mature mothers and fathers would raise emotionally mature offspring. Emotional maturity does not always occur by age 30. Currently, many 60 year olds have not passed that curriculum. Perhaps not a biological age but an emotional age with its required licensing can be affixed before intimacy, a pre-requisite to parenting, can occur.
Oh, yea… that’s what “mortality” is all about! 🙂
In my pursuit of Real Truth, I have given up everything. Crawling through the “eye of the needle,” I have learned the *mysteries* and am now giving my life to assist YOU to dis-cover Who *YOU* really are, along with your unique gift to offer humanity. As you learn to seek (in the right place and with purified intent), you WILL find treasures of lasting value, along with every promised reward. Together, we will establish a society of humane beings and live life ALIVE, on PURPOSE, and with a sociality unequaled… because we will each BE and view each other as equally and profoundly DIVINE! Please… catch this Hope and Vision and join with me.