The root issue of any situation is:
“Am I loveable?”
The answer to every question, is…
“I love you.”
You see, everyone is seeking to find the Love that they are. Every question you are asked has, as the underlying plea: “Will you assist me in my search to find value? I have been taught it is money and other “things,” but something deep inside tells me that *I* am more precious than gold. A “pearl of great price.” Will you help me remember this?”
If you have not yet come to recognize this principle, you will!
How then can you assist those within your circle of influence?
First, you must learn to LOVE your self. Truly, deeply, completely… Love yourself. Think of this “love” as Respect. Love/ respect yourself by only allowing yourself to feel gentle, peaceful, goodness about yourself. While you are “working on yourself,” this constant state may fluctuate, but you CAN, at least, maintain that you are constantly pointing TOWARDS being in this constant feeling about yourself. Love/ respect yourself by maintaining a firm and steady desire (your Will-POWER) to successfully complete this goal of all goals. 🙂 Love/ respect yourself with every thought you think. Yes, EVERY thought you think. 🙂 Love/ respect yourself by doing only what enhances your ultimate and long-term good.
(In “religious” terms, though so widely mis-understood, this is paraphrased into the “First Great Commandment.” “(Thou shalt) Love your Self (aka the Lord thy God) with all thy heart, and with all thy might, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength.”)
As a pure little child, you did this. Remember? 🙂 You loved you! You had a strong confidence. You KNEW that you could learn… and you did. Control of your neck, your arms, your legs, propelling yourself in ever-increasing ways and degrees through space. You learned a lot! And you learned fast! You continued learning BECAUSE that voice inside you kept telling you “I CAN DO THAT!” Then, because of that voice of confidence, you would figure out some way to reach your goal.
Paradoxically, the stronger you became in physically maneuvering through your world, “Others” outside of *YOU* became more and more insistent in dampening your enthusiastic self-empowerment. They implanted seeds of doubt and shame into your fertile mind. These seeds sprouted, grew and took over your “Garden of Eden.” What a waste! What a wilderness! Time to weed….
Now that you are capable of reason, AND with your expressed desire as evidenced by your question… *YOU* can regain control of your mental “Kingdom.” *YOU* can again reign on your throne! No matter Who is your current mental power figure, no matter how many foreign advisors you mentally “pledge allegiance” to, if you faithfully apply the above prescription, then, over time and with diligence, *YOU* CAN again BE the King of Your Castle. This is YOUR rightful place.
Can you picture for a moment how comical the present mortal situation is? Can you conceive of each human as representing their own territorial kingdom with each mind being the right of the Monarch? Yet, nearly each and every king has been subtly de-throned. Most are walking around introducing them self as (for instance): “Hi! I am John.” Yet… they are not!!! They are a compilation of: John, Mary, Nancy, Steve, Jennifer…. Every belief system that has been enforced upon them… mommy’s, daddy’s, their religion’s, their peer group’s, their history books, on and on and on…. Sometimes the biggest seeds compete with each other. Some have grown up and become mature plants that bear nasty-tasting fruit, but that fruit is all the person has tasted, so they have grown accustomed to it. If this scene were not so comical, it would expose the sad state of the world. But, all is not lost! You now have the instructions to escort off the throne and out of the kingdom all the counterfeit rulers, all those voices that have been growing louder and more pressing through the years.
Here is how I did it.
It was back in 1996 when I became earnest about taking back *MY* life and focusing more and more on the state of my inner kingdom. One day I was folding clothes in my laundry room. As I did, I gradually became more and more aware of someone talking. It was my mom! She was right there, behind me, in my laundry room! “Faster, faster! Come on, Kimberly. You have so much to do. Hurry. Hurry. Faster!” As I listened closer and realized that she was there, I became more and more aghast at the situation. Finally, I sat down my unfolded shirt. Putting my arms to my side, I spoke directly to her. “Mom. This is *MY* life. I love you. I know you raised me the best that you were capable of. I know you were always in a hurry and needed me to perform at a fast speed in everything I did for you, but… THIS IS *MY* LIFE! I am in charge now! I love you, but… you must leave. You have no right, nor do you have my permission, to rule in My Kingdom. This is MY mind. I will choose my life and the power of my thoughts. I invite you to go back into YOUR mind. Go reign on your own throne. This is MINE. Thank you very much. Good-bye.”
And with that, she turned around and left. As I kept up my watch, there were times when I found her trying to sneak back in. Each time, however, I retained my domineering stance and she has remained an unauthorized ruler and even a suspected guest. Of course, I have often chosen and allowed her experience to offer me her perspective on the world, but I, alone, have the right to make the rules and decisions regarding my beliefs, my actions, MY LIFE.
As I tuned-in and became vigilant on regaining my own mind back, it was not only my mom’s voice that I needed to escort out. There were many others from my early childhood and on. Any one that I had held up as an “authority figure” for me had to be extricated and invited, even firmly “kicked” out. But, at my persistence, I did it. Now, I solely reign in my own kingdom, inviting in only those who come with respect and offer their own experiences as just that… their experiences, their perspectives. I AM the Overseer of My Kingdom. I AM the Lord, the Crowned Dignitary within My Mind. I AM the Bishop of My Soul.
It is essential, for all those likewise serious in this quest, to become aware of all the other would-be programming competing for their mental territory. Can you go a day without a TV or radio authority giving you their opinion? What about music? Can you turn everything and everyone off? Can you silence the busy-ness of your life… and your mind? Most people in our culture are so unaware of the state INSIDE them self. They are “past feeling” (in scriptural terms), or better, past hearing. But, as you bring silence back into your life, you will make it easier for you to “hear” what is really going on within your own mental kingdom. As you listen, and hear, you will become more aware of what has been going on, the anarchy and “wars” and “rumors of wars” that have been taking place… WITHIN YOUR OWN HEAD… while you have been consciously “sleeping” and living in a semi-comatose, robotic state.
All right. What I have just proscribed helps you to clean up the “Brain-Washing” that has ACTUALLY been a guise and has Polluted your Mind to some degree. But, your question went beyond just being aware, tossing out the garbage and cleaning it out. You want to “develop an inner positive voice that empowers the self.” Yay! Kudoes!
Here’s what I did:
I consciously and systematically programmed in a Positive Voice. I began to sing, either audibly or mentally the song, “Rejoice, the Lord is King!” Over and over and over and over again. Especially within my marriage or with others when I was not able to physically remove myself from the situation. I would instead MENTALLY over-ride the discouragement or judgment that another were trying to toss my way. I would, literally, be in my own little world. Safe in my own mental kingdom. After some time, it became fun for me to realize that that song, that way of looking at, thinking about, feeling about myself… had become deeply etched. Sometimes I have become aware that that song is playing softly in the back of my mind and I have had to mentally trace what triggered it. Maybe another’s comment a moment before, maybe something else. It was FUN for me to have evidence that my intentional programming was working! My love and respect for myself was on AUTO-PILOT. Nothing could violate that anymore! Another song I have used through the years is my own version of: “I love life and I want to live…”Here’s a segment from my autobiography where I share how I “trained” my children to have strong mental kingdoms. This was from 1992, when my oldest was four years old.
“An article in the newspaper about a newly published book by a local author entitled: The Joyful Child inspired me to compose a simple song and contrive a daily routine for my children that, I hoped, would empower them for their life. Each morning, or sometimes multiple times a day, I would have my son (and as our family increased and they were able, each of the children individually) stand as needed on a step stool to look deeply into his or her eyes reflected in the bathroom mirror. I taught him/ eventually each one of them to look beyond their eyes, to go deeper. I told them that living deeply within their skin was a light, a beautiful, warm, comfortable light… like a small fire. As they looked deeper than the surface of the mirror, beyond the surface of their eyes, but deep, deep, they would sense that light. That was their real, true self. That was the part of them to look for and find and sing to. As he appreciated what he saw of himself on the outside and dug as deeply inside as he could, he sang the simple song: “I like myself, I am a valuable person! I like myself, I am a valuable person! I like myself, I like myself, I like myself, I like myself. I am a valuable person!”
May we each become the “Bishop” of our Own Souls and rule and reign in our own peaceful kingdoms, returning each one to their original garden state.
In my pursuit of Real Truth, I have given up everything. Crawling through the “eye of the needle,” I have learned the *mysteries* and am now giving my life to assist YOU to dis-cover Who *YOU* really are, along with your unique gift to offer humanity. As you learn to seek (in the right place and with purified intent), you WILL find treasures of lasting value, along with every promised reward. Together, we will establish a society of humane beings and live life ALIVE, on PURPOSE, and with a sociality unequaled… because we will each BE and view each other as equally and profoundly DIVINE! Please… catch this Hope and Vision and join with me.