I was recently asked: “What absolutely exists?” Here’s how I responded: This is a trick question. 🙂
To be “absolute” is to be pure, unadulterated, whole, complete.
To “exist” is to be INcomplete, Impure, adulterated, to lack “Realness” and yet to SEEM real.
Picture, if you will, the difference between a hologram and a 3-dimensional, dense, materially substantial object. The hologram may look every bit as real, even move and appear to talk, yet from a mortal perspective, it would lack materiality. Similarly, that which exists differs from that which is absolute and real.
You see, that which is ALIVE and REAL and that which EXISTS is not the same.
What is alive and real is True, it is authentic.
And, Truth is things as they were, things as they are, and things as they are to come.
Since “things” within our shared mortal experience at this time are born, change, and die, then these “things” that we experience with our 5 senses are not really alive… they merely exist. Yes, that includes “you.”
You exist, but are not yet Real and Alive.
(Please do not take offense, but keep reading and understanding may come. So will LIFE.) 🙂
Do you remember the story of “Pinocchio?” Pinocchio represents a human, one who breathes, interacts with others, moves to some degree or another and seems to be a living, breathing being. However, he is not. Pinocchio is a puppet. His strings are being pulled by others outside of himself, even without his awareness. Yet, deeply implanted within him is the very real and compelling drive to “become a Real Boy!”
Pinocchio senses that there is something elusive missing. And so do you. When deeply honest with one’s self, one realizes that they are not yet alive, but merely “existing.”
To BECOME “alive,” in scriptural terms, is to be “born AGAIN.” One can picture a tiny flame within that says ‘I AM!’ This awareness is an investment into a truer, real-er, more complete, whole, Holy version of them self.
To be born “of the flesh,” one is “of the flesh” or, “carnal, sensual, devilish.” To be born of the flesh, one exists.
To be born “of the spirit,” one becomes Alive and Real. They are an Authentic Human Being! This is what is so very misunderstood by “Christians” as the “second birth.”
Being around people who ARE “born of spirit” can stimulate one’s desires, just as Pinocchio was stimulated by his father, his creator, Geppetto. But it is requisite that each of us reach deep withIN with an eye single to realizing his final “delivery” into a whole new world… a world of Spirit and Truth.
When Jesus told Peter, “don’t tell any man who I am,” he was actually speaking a hidden truth. Peter could NOT reveal truth to another until that other opened up his inner ears to hear and his true heart to understand. Without the sensory equipment, one might look with their physical eyes and believe they see, listen with their temporal ears and think they hear, all while Really being blind and deaf.
To become Real and Alive, as Jesus was informing Peter, requires one to become broken and humble, realizing “I don’t love well.” When one opens FULLY, they may receive fully. One must diligently seek for, ask, knock for one’s personal change of heart in order to become Real, Alive, and Born Spiritually.
Even after this experience, there is a learning curve while one develops a new appetite and new habits, replacing the “old man” and his carnal appetites, desires and passions for those which maintain Life.
In the Book of Mormon, the “Lamanites” received a “mighty change of heart” and they “knew it not.” Yet, each slowly began to realize that the world as they knew it was shifting. Their perceptions and understandings were changing. They were developing into a newness of life, taking upon them a more buoyant, light, spiritual point-of-view.
To “exist” is to live in a state of mind of “justness” and “fairness.” To “exist” is to rely upon one’s five mortal senses of sight, hearing, smell, taste and touch, along with the sixth sense of mortal thinking. To exist is to put stock in the veracity of these characteristics in being of assistance as one maneuvers through mortal experiences.
To be Alive, Real, Absolute, Authentic, is to NOT put stock in the sensory world but feel for, live for one more real, yet less dense and, though overlapping, somewhat beyond the six mortal senses.
I have written much about those who dwell primarily in the world of sensory fulfillment, who fixate on the appearance and façade of life, not from their inner core. Why do they not feel and interact from an inner well of humanity and empathy? Because they Can’t. They have not yet dug down deep and FILLED for them self an inner well. They don’t know how to generate more positive validation for themselves. They are empty. “Whited sepulchers filled with dead men’s bones.”
Without their own inner source of supply, an emotionally immature or damaged individual (“narcissist”) must draw upon the community “water” (emotional validation) source and utilize its shared plumbing which only has a limited supply which gets recirculated. As such, they are hollow, miserly, and thus, miserable. They KNOW they are missing out on being Alive and Real, yet filled with shame, they seek to hide further, even from themselves. These are the Pinocchios.
Empty and tragically lonely inside, narcissists (emotional “infants”), must have others placate their emotional and psychological demands just as a physical newborn must be cradled and cared for continuously in order to maintain his life. They frustrate and become irritated easily when they sense the “other” has refused to conform to THEIR needs, feeding them their emotional daily requirements. When an “emotional infant” is already in a state of volatility and some one dares to not hear and cater to their “hunger cries,” their frustration can quickly turn into “narcissistic rage.” Hell hath no fury as a narcissist’s rage!
But, understand why the fury. Their strings are literal “umbilical cords” that feed them, direct them, validate them, give them a semblance of being alive. Those a narcissist look to in order to give them validation and direction on what’s important in life are their crucial existence-maintaining supply. A narcissist’s strings (umbilical cords) sustain them emotionally and, like a puppet, if those strings are cut by a source refusing to continue their supply of emotional validation, then the “fight or flight” FOR LIFE instinct kicks in. A narcissist’s enraged attacks are his attempts to reattach the flimsy umbilical strings of his existence.
In my prior posts on narcissism, I give general principles to understand and utilize when dealing with someone (or yourself) with narcissistic tendencies. (See http://loveistheanswer.info/healing-yes-healing-narcissism-mommy-who-am-i-mirrors-blessed-part-6-b/ )
In simplicity, in order to mature from a “puppet” state into a Real, Alive and Fully Engaged Human Being, we EACH must get to the point of accepting the role of RE-parenting our self. We must become more and more aware of and focused upon the world largely UNSEEN by physical eyes, the world of energy, emotion, feeling. This is how to build inner core strength, bringing life, aliveness, security and strength. This well becomes our own “fount of living waters.”
John 4:13-15 “Jesus said to her, Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again. But whoever drinks the water I give him will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give him will become in him a fount of water springing up to eternal life. The woman said to Him, Sir, give me this water so that I will not get thirsty and have to keep coming here to draw water.” Matthew 5:6 “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled.” John 7:38 “Whoever believes in Me, as the Scripture has said: ‘Streams of living water will flow from within him.'”
With these qualities comes the ability to trust others and, especially, trust one’s Self; thus healing the severed trust cycle from infancy. Those with extreme emotional deficits (“narcissists”) require much assistance in this. They need a “surrogate mother,” someone with significant emotional maturity who is willing to be the “tough L.O.V.E.” that they missed out on in their original childhood.
To the degree of emotional maturity one has, one has that same degree of REAL and LIVING love for them self and is able to replenish their own supply, even having reserves to give to another. To the degree that one loves one’s self, their core, living Self, one has empathy for others. Self Love, emotional maturity, empathy, enmity (conscience) and one’s ALIVENESS are all inter-related. Thus, the greatest task one can undertake for inner peace and JOY in life is to learn to truly and deeply L.O.V.E. them self.
As one applies Matthew 5-7 (see the link to the right), one grows in this love and in one’s humanity. The goal, the quintessential inner desire of each soul, is to reach the summit of humanity, be “translated” or “Re-born” into a life of power and wisdom. This brings opportunity to feel and understand in a far greater degree than can even be imagined when operating as a “Pinocchio.”
At the following link, I share what until recently has been a very personal, sacred experience that I have kept within my heart wherein I reveal publicly my “second birth.” If you choose to read, you will see that I left behind the life of “existing” and entered into life Alive and Real. If you read this post, I implore you to read without religious “lenses,” but to open up your own mind and heart and let my words sink in. https://www.quora.com/Joseph-Smith-in-his-first-vision-states-he-saw-an-angel-many-angels-the-lord-a-personage-etc-which-one-is-the-official-version-and-why-so-many-different-first-visions/answer/Kimberly-Davis-Wallis
What absolutely exists is that which does not change but is eternal and enduring. Can you pick out any “mortals” who fit that bill? 🙂 Please note: there ARE “angels among us.” Look for them. Become one. Relinquish your grasp on the physical world and that which your senses perceive and look beyond… to the absolute.
In my pursuit of Real Truth, I have given up everything. Crawling through the “eye of the needle,” I have learned the *mysteries* and am now giving my life to assist YOU to dis-cover Who *YOU* really are, along with your unique gift to offer humanity. As you learn to seek (in the right place and with purified intent), you WILL find treasures of lasting value, along with every promised reward. Together, we will establish a society of humane beings and live life ALIVE, on PURPOSE, and with a sociality unequaled… because we will each BE and view each other as equally and profoundly DIVINE! Please… catch this Hope and Vision and join with me.