I will put “men” in quotation marks because, obviously, not all people of that gender fit into that category, though many do. 🙂
Like anything: making beautiful music on the piano, baking a delicious batch of bread, dribbling a basketball, writing a great essay…
…expression of feelings takes practice. The best practice occurs with a mentor who cares yet knows how to best assist the “trainee” to be successful.
Communication of feelings is far more meaningful than any of the above listed abilities. Yet, it involves a great amount of trust.
Many people today have had their “trust-cycle” severed and are, therefore, with-holding of their natural and spontaneous, childlike feelings.
“Men” must be loved into trusting and being trustworthy. They need mentoring in How to share feelings. But, in order to Want mentoring, they must decide that it is important to them. For this, only a True Woman, one who he has deemed is both within his reach yet way beyond his current value will do. He must ache with longing to be accepted by her, yet realize that he must stretch and grow in the area of deepest communion because that is the level that she expects. His partner must be emotionally mature, caring, patient… all while providing him with firm and specific feedback.
“Men” want… and need… both a “mommy” and a “mistress.” His “feelings mentor” must be both. She must know When to be which in their relationship.
In this “transitional stage” of global evolution into feelings, there are some “insensitive” folk who erroneously and ignorantly judge and label a sensitive man, calling him “gay.” So the man re-learns to clam up.
Women must realize that not all expression is verbal. Men instinctively ACT on their feelings.
Women must learn to “translate” this language to “hear” their true expression.
There are many Gay men who express their feelings quite easily and fluidly, through word of mouth, through action, and through something that could be called a “spiritual interchange”… thoughts flowing from person to person. All people: women and gay or straight men included, have the capacity of exceedingly deep feelings and can develop the ability to communicate them. But, we all need to realize that communication takes many forms.
Many of our “Gay” men are now helping to pioneer humanity’s way to our next level.
Learning how to be aware of, pay attention to, open up and allow the communication to translate itself into one’s understanding CORRECTLY will take determined practice. But, a “man” CAN do this.
This is the crowning ability and the requisite to becoming a “GENTLE-MAN.”
And, a Gentleman is a beautiful thing! Truly an “evolved being” in today’s society.
May we each… and all… find our way to True COMMUNication!
In my pursuit of Real Truth, I have given up everything. Crawling through the “eye of the needle,” I have learned the *mysteries* and am now giving my life to assist YOU to dis-cover Who *YOU* really are, along with your unique gift to offer humanity. As you learn to seek (in the right place and with purified intent), you WILL find treasures of lasting value, along with every promised reward. Together, we will establish a society of humane beings and live life ALIVE, on PURPOSE, and with a sociality unequaled… because we will each BE and view each other as equally and profoundly DIVINE! Please… catch this Hope and Vision and join with me.