If you do not agree that “men ARE that they might have JOY” then you just might wish to discontinue reading what follows at this point as everything hinges upon this premise.
Each of us come into being in this physical world to experience and express JOY, which is the result of being the best, happiest, healthiest human we can be within a sociality of other JOY-filled beings. In order to discover this state of being, our feelings are our guidance system, giving feedback to how in sync our thoughts and actions are to acquiring this state of JOY.
In order to experience this state of being, each member in our human family must utilize their propensity to CREATE from within themselves and offer to the body of humanity a gift that is uniquely theirs to give. This attribute of creatorship is what manifests as the sense of being “a child of God” which religions freely, yet misguidingly, tout. These very religions which establish the bar or purpose to life twist the rules of the game in ways which actually prevent the acquisition of JOY. Thus, the continual need to self-medicate Sunday following Sunday, slipping their checks in the “tithing envelopes” week after week, while never fully internalizing the pure original messages.
Instead, societies, and particularly the most “religious” societies, are established to pit individuals against each other through a fear of acquiring the validation we each need. Competing with each other leads to feelings of shame and judgment. Pitting one’s self and group against others, our patriarchal religious societies sever the close connection that we otherwise would have with the universe by focusing outside our selves on what others are doing and upon what we “should” do, instead of within ourselves on how we are feeling.
To the degree that one’s focus is outward, one’s inner core is devoid of light or Intelligence. Fear, resulting from a lack of awareness of and trust in a “Higher Source” brings this “dark core” which is at the heart of traits such as egoism, sadism, narcissism, and psychopathy. Being raised without a firm reliance upon the pure voice within brings emotional instability and a feeling of separateness. Feeling set apart from others causes one to maximize one’s sense of individual value while disregarding or malevolently provoking low value for others. The result is continual mental and verbal sparring and self-justification… all in consequence of our current religious “Patriarchal Societies” which have prevented women from being “virtuous women,” men from becoming “virtuous men,” and children from being raised with the abilities to discover who they are and live in a state of JOY.
In order for children to grow up to experience JOY, they must be foundationalized during their childhood in such ways to create a gentle, empathetic, compassionate humanity. Being raised to maintain constant awareness of their inner feelings allows one to be so much calmer, happier, more whole, more “right” than raised to focus outside themselves on what others are doing.
Young boys and girls talk very similarly about their best friends during childhood because friendship and love are crucial to the human experience. However, at adolescence, boys distance themselves abruptly from their friendships, and begin focusing on dominance behaviors. To the degree that this re-focusing upon dominance is accepted, boys lose their once pure humanity. Just at the time that testosterone begins to surge, boys going through puberty are taught to become “masculine,” “tough,” to avoid showing their feelings or looking “feminine,” all while viewing women as objects of lust and silent derision. They are taught that to act like a girl, to exemplify compassion, is for “sissies” while acting upon their urges is normal and healthy. As such, boys/ men/ societies take their emphasis off of camaraderie and focus instead on dominance and control… of women, resources, and each other. Thus, our current state of “wars and rumors of wars,” loneliness, depression and their resultant addictive and suicidal backlash.
Understanding how we have been socializing boys is crucial to undoing and re-doing that socialization. Men need to get in touch with a sense of Who They (Actually) Are while realizing that the essence of Who They Are has nothing to do with being “good” or “bad,” “cool” or “tough,” and that their value certainly doesn’t depend on the outward approval… tacit or explicit… of other men whose sole interest is upholding the current status quo of the Patriarchal Society, and therefore, toxic masculinity. Nothing about being a man is inherently toxic except for the definition of and current realization of manhood. Yet, as fish don’t know that their environment (water) is wet, so too do most individuals not yet realize that we exist as Intelligence (Light, Energy, or Spirit) within Intelligence (Light, Energy, or Spirit). Indeed, this is Who We Are and Why We Exist and is the path towards Self Knowing and JOY. It is high time that we re-write our definition of childhood, and adolescence, particularly for boys.
“As a twig is bent, so grows the tree.” As a young child is taught how to use his or her senses, so they become foundationalized to a certain way of observing and interacting with their world and their relationships within it. Our Minds are easily IMPRESSED to RE-ACT to situations. Every thought you have is derived from an impression of the outside world. When you SEE HEAR SMELL TOUCH or TASTE something it INVOKES a thought. In other words, we are being controlled, programmed, by the outside world. This is what Patriarchal Religious societies have done to humanity. Instead, what we must start to do, is live from the INSIDE OUT, giving control to our purest and deepest inner FEELINGS, and the outside will then become a reflection of the INSIDE.
Because of the emphasis upon the material world and one’s senses, the great degree of competition to be perceived as “successful” within this material (temporal/ temporary) world, the logical/ rational mind and its propensities to unwisely govern, coupled with the down-play of emotions with the resulting lack of intimate and respectful sharing of feelings by and with men, society has come apart at the seams and is nearing massive extermination. Additionally, men are being inculcated to believe that they should be the leaders of households with the females subservient to them, further preventing their abilities to gain emotional maturity and its ensuing JOY.
Yet, all is not lost. There are many individuals of each gender who are beginning to awaken and arise to seek a higher vantage point from which to view life. Many have begun to realize that shame, without being administered by the wise and unfaltering love of a woman, is not useful, and is, in fact, the impetus behind all male violence. Eyes are beginning to open to the fact that the ways we’ve been taught to organize ourselves mentally and socially are, in and of themselves, causing harm in our relationships while damning us individually and as a culture. It is time that we each engage deeply in questioning cultural expectations, rooting out behaviors that are harmful to the self and others, and become brave enough to discover our authentic selves. Not only does our individual JOY depend upon this, but so too do future generations. Men, upon understanding the ways they’ve been socialized, have a moral obligation to change their behavior and perspective. In order to change, men need to examine their behavior and make sure it’s in line with their higher sense of Self. Only an elevated perch can offer this higher perspective. This is where my posts and virtuous women come in.
(To be continued.)
In my pursuit of Real Truth, I have given up everything. Crawling through the “eye of the needle,” I have learned the *mysteries* and am now giving my life to assist YOU to dis-cover Who *YOU* really are, along with your unique gift to offer humanity. As you learn to seek (in the right place and with purified intent), you WILL find treasures of lasting value, along with every promised reward. Together, we will establish a society of humane beings and live life ALIVE, on PURPOSE, and with a sociality unequaled… because we will each BE and view each other as equally and profoundly DIVINE! Please… catch this Hope and Vision and join with me.