Throughout the history of this world, individuals and civilizations have exchanged goods and services. Sometimes this has been through a barter system. Presently the method used to make exchanges back and forth utilizes money. Money has allowed one individual to determine what he or she needs or wants and trade that for another’s service or a material object. There has been established an agreed upon rate and element of exchange.
In the United States of America, we exchange what we call dollars. Those in Mexico trade pesos, and those in the European nations exchange the Euro. If someone from one country chose to visit or move to another, they would, of necessity, be required to make an adjustment in the money they had been trading to acquire those things to live that they desired or needed.
Money is not the only thing exchanged, however. To live as human beings, we have certain requirements. These include the right balance of sleep and wake; breathing in oxygen and breathing out carbon dioxide and toxins that have been cleansed from our system; assimilation, digestion and excretion of the correct balance of nutrition in the amount needed by our individual bodies.
But, these are not our only needs. In addition to those listed that are required for maintenance and growth of our physical mortal body, there are other, higher needs. We have emotional needs of being accepted, being appreciated for our unique value within the group which has accepted us, and the need to be loved and to give love in return. Often, belonging to a family has fulfilled, or attempted to fulfill, these needs. Groups, clubs, religions and gangs can also help to fulfill these needs.
As we grow, develop and begin to gain control over our physical bodies, having those physical needs met, our higher, emotional needs take precedence. When the needs for human life are established and not required to be the focus and toil of all of one’s existence, then a relative level of security has been reached. It is now that the individual can feel completely cherished for the unique contribution that is only his. This leads to a pursuit of “self-realization.”
This ability to realize, or “know” one’s True Self is the highest achievement of a human being and is what each one of us, from a place deep within, is seeking to attain. Now, at this point, one can truly ‘create’ his life, utilizing his unique propensities and passions to contribute something that is truly “him” to society.
But in order to truly love, adore, and cherish one’s self, allowing this passion to create a life of true depth and meaning, we must first satisfy the needs of both the physical and emotional self.
Often, if not always, there is a short-circuit in this seeking. If a need is not met, then almost anything can be justified within the mind of the needy one to commit acts of violence and disrespect upon others in a misguided attempt to reestablish the missing balance within. Indeed, this very drive often becomes a subconscious motivator of all interactions, clouding the perspective and denying the fullest realization of meaning and joy in one’s life.
Also, in today’s society, we erroneously learn that material “stuff” can assuage the lacking feelings of being accepted, appreciated and loved. A blanket, pacifier, new doll, clothes, car, sexual partner, food, drug, control over others, new employment opportunity, prominence within the community, money, etc. can temporarily bring a sense of “comfort.”
A child learns early on that when mother’s face appears within his vision, he can give a whiny moan and receive her arms and soothing words, perhaps a kiss and a snuggle. “Surely this is love!” He thinks. It even seems to feel good; for a moment.
Within my in-home-childcare, I have seen the exchange of energy shift when a parent arrives. During the day, the child will have been amicable, playing sociably and interacting happily with kind hands and voice. However, when a parent appears, suddenly they search their memory for anything that can be retrieved that will allow their parent to see them as a “victim.”
The child’s voice changes to that of a pout or a whine: “I fell down!” “I don’t want to go yet!” “Did you get me a toy?” Sure enough, mommy gathers little Johnny into her arms. “Oh, sweetheart; show me your owie.”
The element of exchange of energy that had been “peaceful co-existence and happy playing” has thus been traded for portraying a “weak, hurt, powerless individual.” From past experience, the child has “traded in his dollars for pesos” so that he can interact, “buy-and-sell” in this “other country”… “mommy.” He has learned that “mommy” uses a different exchange of energy than that used during the day with me. However, he has yet to reach understanding that mommy’s exchange dis-empowers him, leaving a lasting emptiness and further void.
Indeed, the element of exchange that has been destroying our children and wrecking all kinds of havoc on society is… (are you ready for this???)
What is currently believed to be “love” and “compassion” and the proper “raising of children” is, instead, creating victims and augmenting the very problems that it is supposed they can ameliorate. The very character traits, “patience, long-suffering, loyalty,” etc. which, though crucial in the raising of children as well as the appropriate interaction as interdependent social creatures are as unruly children themselves when not guided by the “master virtue” of…
Yes, compassion without wisdom is society’s vice.
In order to hope to gain wisdom from one’s life, one must do as the one called “Jesus” taught: “rejoice with exceeding gladness when persecuted for righteousness’ sake.” (Matthew 5:12. See the link to the right.) This is the “asking of God” who “giveth to all humanity liberally.” (James 1:5.) In other words, regardless of the life experience, one accepts the opportunity to learn from it with a rejoicing heart. While sincerely feeling gratitude for the lesson, one looks deeply within the “problem” with the intent of seeing one’s self more clearly. Additionally, one keeps one’s hope alive and burning brightly as one walks forward with the jewel acquired from the search, thus, utilizing understanding to enhance one’s further journey. Hindsight applied with gratitude shines light upon each present moment.
When a child “falls,” in any pursuit, a wise parent assists that child to search back through the experience and find the “jewels.” Wise parents create children who “seek wisdom.”
It is this very wisdom which is the hallmark or advanced reward of the individual (often labeled a “sage” or “prophet”) who has successfully “passed” the curriculum of this earth school education. Wisdom comes through purposeful experience. Experience often comes through hard-knocks from trial and error… living without true wisdom.
But, gradually, wisdom is acquired, takes the reins of the other virtues and brings order and stability to the person wielding it, as well as to those within his circle of influence.
Thus, in each situation, the proper energy is possessed in rich supply and may be exchanged to enliven the receiver as well as the giver. A profoundly blessed exchange of energy!
In my pursuit of Real Truth, I have given up everything. Crawling through the “eye of the needle,” I have learned the *mysteries* and am now giving my life to assist YOU to dis-cover Who *YOU* really are, along with your unique gift to offer humanity. As you learn to seek (in the right place and with purified intent), you WILL find treasures of lasting value, along with every promised reward. Together, we will establish a society of humane beings and live life ALIVE, on PURPOSE, and with a sociality unequaled… because we will each BE and view each other as equally and profoundly DIVINE! Please… catch this Hope and Vision and join with me.