A song that so many seem to relate to, but one which I cringe each time I hear, is entitled “Last Christmas” by George Michael.
“Last Christmas I gave you my heart. The very next day you gave it away. This year, to save me from tears, I’ll give it to someone special.”
And why do I cringe? Precisely because the author, the artist, the audience… none understand the gift of the heart. None have internalized or learned how to correctly apply L.O.V.E.
The “heart” has been so misunderstood, so abused, so ignored, so often replaced by her “understudy”: the brain. Why? You trust someone, believing that he cares for you as you care for him, only to discover that he’s out for himself… at your expense. Learning to handle the shock of this all-too-common realization with grace and wisdom is one of the rites of passage to emotional adulthood. Yet, because the curriculum has become twisted, most fail to realize that actual L.O.V.E.. giving of one’s heart, is done unfalteringly and without expectations.
Yet, love, real L.O.V.E. is administered only with WISDOM. Therefore, when L.O.V.E., True L.O.V.E., is correctly utilized within a relationship where one party is emotionally “mentoring” another (such as parent–>child or [as I will expound much more upon in the future] “connected” wife–>husband) this high-level L.O.V.E. (level of vibratory EXCELLENCE) might appear as “tough”/ unfair/ hypocritical/ etc. When one truly understands Who THEY Are, and lives from the highest state of “The Golden Rule,” they are acting and inter-acting with others from a level that is often misunderstood when viewed from a dis-connected “head.”
I have expounded upon this often already and will continue to do so. From December 18th’s post: “Bearing Gifts They Traverse Afar”: Level Three, the Celestial Level, is: Treat others… as their eternal, divine Self directs me for the long-term good of their mortal self that I am dealing with. This third level is accessed by those who have empirically decided that their individual “free-will” (“ME” will) is not as important as doing and living constantly according to that which benefits EVERYONE for the long-term (their self included). In this way, “my will” is traded for “Thy will be done.”
Again, I will expound much more in the future about these very unique, what I call “Vertical Relationships” where one party (parent, wife, or spiritual “mentor”) is assisting the other party (child, husband, “disciple”) to “grow in spirit” or, in other words, gain emotional mastery. For all other “Horizontal Relationships” where parties are emotional “equals,” love must be taught and understood differently IF we are to transcend the current pain and heart-break that is so rampant.
Anticipation of betrayal causes many to believe that it was the vulnerability and care that got them hurt. Their protective armor then comes on to shield them from spontaneous expression of the heart. With this hardened shell, the heart becomes guarded and callous to love’s reception or gifting. Believing that their heart brought them pain, their misguided defensiveness prevents the fullness of living and, to varying degrees, they develop personality disorders and mental ruts with emotional barriers to prevent future heartbreak.
Indeed, with this very protective armor (an “uncircumcised heart” in scriptural terms), one is operating from the blindness of pre-programmed mental scripts and is actually setting them self up for perceived attack and mis-treatment. The fact that we feel something strongly… anger, fear, desire… doesn’t mean that the emotion is driven by the heart. In actuality, it is the brain that often uses emotional backup to get its own way. The brain has been faultily programmed to what love really is. Hijacking our emotions to defend its fears and shame, the mental program easily fools those who have not yet learned what L.O.V.E. really is.
There’s a big difference between emotions driven by the head and feelings coming from the true heart.
The mind views love conditionally: “I’ll love you as long as you validate me.” This is the belief that is often taught as “love,” though it is not. It is a counterfeit. Actual L.O.V.E., the true gift of the true heart, “is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 1 Corinthians 13.
John 15:13, “Greater love has no one than this, that someone lays down his life for his friends.” At the core of love is a self-sacrificing pursuit of the beloved’s greatest good. Love saves. Love rescues. Love helps. And it does so unfalteringly, even when it seems that the cost is the lover herself.
In Corinthians above, love is not being defined, but being applied. Wherever there is love there is pain… “love suffers long… endures all things, bears all things.” This is the mortal experience and therefore comforting. If two mortal people, or two thousand people, are in a relationship of love, all will be hurt. And all will need to “suffer long” and endure and bear. Matthew 5-7 teaches HOW to not just “endure” but to rise above each and every situation. (See the link to the right.)
Again, in the original song lyrics: “Last Christmas I gave you my heart. The very next day you gave it away. This year, to save me from tears, I’ll give it to someone special,” the pure heart was not the gift, the head was, with its expectations and judgments and its capacity to have its ego bruised or broken. Yet, the lyrics can be re-written from a level of Wisdom. “Each day I give all my heart, regardless if you don’t accept it.”
Pure, wise L.O.V.E. continues to offer high vibrational assistance to all within their path, easily detouring when faced with an unwilling and impenetrable self-consumed will. Nevertheless, like the sun, one who bears the gift of L.O.V.E. continually shines and offers their Light to any and all in their path.
(To be continued… again… )
In my pursuit of Real Truth, I have given up everything. Crawling through the “eye of the needle,” I have learned the *mysteries* and am now giving my life to assist YOU to dis-cover Who *YOU* really are, along with your unique gift to offer humanity. As you learn to seek (in the right place and with purified intent), you WILL find treasures of lasting value, along with every promised reward. Together, we will establish a society of humane beings and live life ALIVE, on PURPOSE, and with a sociality unequaled… because we will each BE and view each other as equally and profoundly DIVINE! Please… catch this Hope and Vision and join with me.