Oh, dear brothers…
A woman who has the power to take you to heaven…
where, together, you may experience the heights of ecstasy…
does not engage in sex.
Here’s the problem:
YOU “love to have sex” with your wife.
Women… truly emotionally mature women… do not participate in “sex.”
What is missing from the crucial equation is INTIMACY.
Let me give you an analogy:
In baseball, you don’t hit the ball and quickly stand on home base, expecting to have scored a point.
No, you must run to first base, hopefully clear it and continue running to second, then third, THEN home plate.
Many males have the mistaken notion that their wife LOVES to “have sex with them.” Here’s why. Women are nurturers. They LOVE to love. Love is who they are! Often times they even sacrifice their own deepest longings, even pretending to be fulfilled and “enjoy” your offering. But… your wife is likely becoming like many emotionally mature women. She is learning how to respect her self; love her self. Perhaps she is even coming to realize that she must be integrous with herself first. In order to give you what she potentially has to give… she must first have it within her own being. She must love her self. Truly. Honestly. First. And, she must hold YOU to that same high standard for Real Love and union to take place.
This is a true “wife.” This is real “marriage.” Anything less is counterfeit and illusory.
If you want to have intimate experiences with your wife, even score a home run in a marvelously wondrous and precious “heaven on earth”…
then you must learn the lessons of *LOVE*,
play the game of *LOVE*,
Begin by changing your perspective. Open your eyes and see your wife… and each and every female on Earth… as a divine goddess. She is worthy of your highest honor. Only precious valor and integrity are worthy of her presence. Many women today have forgotten this about them selves. Yes, there are some women who are willing to sacrifice their dignity and “sell” them selves, with or without money, for a sexual experience. Some even gain a sense of “power” or “revenge” over the males in their lives. But someday, each of them WILL remember who they truly are… and their infinite worth.
A male who has lost his true sight might have sexual conquests where he THINKS he is “doing everything right” and have females even willing to “agree with him.” But, that is only because they are among those who have become satisfied with the tinsel and saccharine taste of the tawdry and cheap.
Open your ears. Listen. Really hear what she is saying. Now, begin to listen beneath the words. What is she not saying? Open your heart to hear her more fully. Learn to communicate by first sincerely listening. Let her know that her thoughts are important to you. Let her know that the thoughts of her heart are safe with you. Act with integrity on that which she shares. Honor that which she endeavors to communicate.
To me, it sounds like your wife is beginning to wake up. She is starting to realize her inherent value. She is “saving herself” for a man… perhaps deeply hoping that YOU prove to be that man… who will learn to LOVE her and HONOR her. If you see her as “very hot,” then you do not yet see her as an infinitely precious Being who can bless your life in more ways that just under the bed sheets.
IF you want to graduate from the lower level temporary thrills and conquests… yes, that you might now believe is the ultimate experience called “sex,” THEN you must change your perspective. STOP thinking about “sex.” Instead, dedicate your life, your thoughts, your desires, your actions, your words… “How can I show respect to my wife? How can I appreciate the inherent beauty that she exemplifies? What can I do this very moment to serve her, to make her life better, to ease her burdens, to put a sincere smile on her lips? Beneath her outer beauty, Who IS She? How can my life benefit hers and her unique gift to humanity?…”
See her as the divine Queen that she is. Remind her of this if she has forgotten or feels unworthy. As you bring her true value back to her memory, she will claim a power and a beauty beyond compare. And you will begin to emotionally grow and experience love like you never have before. You will learn to look deeper and deeper into her soul. You will begin to see who she really is. Her touch will melt you. Her smile will take your breath away. To hear her gentle laugh will create tingles upon your spine. You will seek every way you can to honor her presence. You will find countless ways to bless her life. You will open to her feedback on that which you do that is most important to her. When she lets you know of ways to show her your love that you are now ignorant of, you will meekly accept her instruction and zealously put into practice any hint that she may have offered in order to perfect your love.
As you do this, as you become this love, your wife’s heart and mind and soul will open wide to you and the man that you are becoming. Her esteem for you will deepen. Yes, her love and respect for you as a man… her man… will grow. THEN… at Her invitation… you may round that last corner and slide into home plate. But this time, your experience will be different. You will savor each nuance. Your senses will have expanded. Your heart will be capable of receiving a more enhanced love, one that you can’t even conceive of at this present time. Orgasm or not, just to hold her, to touch her, will bring more fulfillment to you than any experience you have yet had.
As you open your eyes, and truly perceive the precious divinity that you now dare call your “wife,” you will see into her soul. THIS is intimacy; to see within… deep within… and experience the depths and heights of True Union: Mind. Heart. Body. Spirit.
And Intimacy, dear brothers, is what your soul truly yearns for.
Intimacy is what your wife is (perhaps even unknowingly) inviting you to prepare yourself for.
May you seek.
May you find.
May you experience far more than your sights have yet looked for.
In my pursuit of Real Truth, I have given up everything. Crawling through the “eye of the needle,” I have learned the *mysteries* and am now giving my life to assist YOU to dis-cover Who *YOU* really are, along with your unique gift to offer humanity. As you learn to seek (in the right place and with purified intent), you WILL find treasures of lasting value, along with every promised reward. Together, we will establish a society of humane beings and live life ALIVE, on PURPOSE, and with a sociality unequaled… because we will each BE and view each other as equally and profoundly DIVINE! Please… catch this Hope and Vision and join with me.