“What’s the point of apologizing in a world full of unforgiving people?”
I was recently asked for my perspective on this. Here was my response:
The point of apologizing is to re-establish good feeling.
Contrary to common belief, apologizing is not usually needed when two emotionally mature individuals are interacting because both KNOW that the other is doing the best they can under the circumstances. In that case, a gentle chuckle or smile may be more appropriate.
In other situations (involving one or more emotionally IMMATURE individuals), apologizing actually indicates that you judge that the other has judged You as wrong and, thus, requiring of an apology.
The only time apologizing is helpful is when a parent or mentor is attempting to promote greater perspective and empathy in their student and so is requiring an apology to take place and the “garbage” cleaned up… OR when you can see that an apology would really help the situation in the long run.
Although the world does seem to have many “unforgiving people,” forgiveness is not a gift you give to others, but a gift you give to your self!
You see, when you judge another as wrong or as having wronged YOU, you lack all the variables from seeing the entire situation. You are seeing from your own experience, your own unique perspective. Not theirs!
To judge another “wrong” brings YOU bad feeling, and since you exist to feel HAPPY, Not Bad, then you are defeating the purpose for which you exist! That is stupidity. Or ignorance.
But, you are no longer “ignorant,” because NOW YOU KNOW! 🙂
Always appropriate is to act (and interact and re-act) from a place of: “What can I do/ say/ feel that will bring greater harmony to the situation long-term?”
In my pursuit of Real Truth, I have given up everything. Crawling through the “eye of the needle,” I have learned the *mysteries* and am now giving my life to assist YOU to dis-cover Who *YOU* really are, along with your unique gift to offer humanity. As you learn to seek (in the right place and with purified intent), you WILL find treasures of lasting value, along with every promised reward. Together, we will establish a society of humane beings and live life ALIVE, on PURPOSE, and with a sociality unequaled… because we will each BE and view each other as equally and profoundly DIVINE! Please… catch this Hope and Vision and join with me.